Out of new ideas to bless your spouse?

by | Jun 29, 2023

By Patrick and Camile Bisignaro

I love my wife. Sometimes it seems like I lack the time or money to bring something new into my marriage. Do you ever feel like you are not as romantic as you used to be? Unsure how to express how you feel about your favorite earthly person and need some ideas?  Basically, do you want an Awesome Marriage and wish someone could give you a couple suggestions?  

Awesome Marriages are still possible even in the chaos of today’s world. It’s just finding out how we can make it happen and make it work.

Several years ago, I was looking for a way to bring some action to my feelings for my wife.  We have been married for about 10 years and had a couple kids at the time.  Our life was full, and it’s too easy to take your favorite human for granted. Our marriage was starting to tatter around the edges. I knew I could be doing more to show my spouse how important she was to me.  

That’s when I found Awesome Marriage.

It’s a network of books, mini-series, podcasts, blogs and more. They have lists of special things you can do each day with your partner. Every day they send an email with what Today’s One Thing is.

I thought I’d share a list of some of the things my wife and I have done to spend quality time together in the midst of a busy season of life (feel free to borrow these for yourself!)

Just to list a few examples of recent topics that came my way:

  • PLANT a garden together
  • Hug and kiss your spouse for a full minute

  • Tell your spouse something that you appreciate about them. 

  • Think about any decisions that need to be made today, and ask if they can be a “team” decision. Incorporate your spouse in these decisions on purpose

  • Thank God for the gift of your spouse, and show generosity to your spouse.

  • Rate yourselves on resolving conflict in your marriage and then pick an issue and resolve it using these three bullet points below:

    • This first point is so important. Define the problem and take responsibility. In other words, you have to make sure you are fighting about the same thing and take personal responsibility for your part. This is essential.

    •  Pray for God’s wisdom and guidance, then take turns giving solutions. Write them all down. Then eliminate until you have one you both agree on. This requires being objective and setting your pride aside. 

    • Identify what each of you will do in implementing the solution. Then follow through 100%.

We get caught up in the day-to-day and in the big things that happen in our life. Sometimes it’s the small things that truly bring us closer to the person we are committed to. The One Thing for every day is to help us grow our marriage. Each One Thing is unique and has a different goal. We didn’t pick our partner by chance. 

There was something there and it’s our job to make sure that something doesn’t fade. Ephesians 5:28 says we should “love our wives as we love our own bodies…”  We often can try new things to entertain ourselves.  New foods, movies, exercise routines, diets, and games.  I’ve found it worth way more to invest in One Thing to bless my wife every day.   This is a focused and straightforward way to love your spouse. Because when we” …love our wife, we love ourselves.”

In case you are wondering. No, I did not start a garden with my wife. I can barely cut the grass. But, I have acted on many of these.  I encourage you to act on some, too. 

To get started cultivating an Awesome Marriage visit Awesome Marriage.